Families and Couples

Divorce

“I’m leaving!!! I want a divorce!!” This was the last thing I heard from my then husband as he stormed out of the house. I just stood there in shock. What had happened to our marriage and relationship? Where did I go wrong? What did I do that was so terrible that he wants out? I have no idea what I am going to do. I can’t pay all the bills and take care of the children and work full time at my job. And to make things worse, my family is going to tell me “told you so” and give me grief about him wanting a divorce. I thought we were going to start working on things. He hasn’t said anything to me about wanting a divorce. I have no idea what to do next. I don’t want to end my marriage. And what about the kids? How is the divorce going to affect them? I don’t want them growing up hating their dad or me. I am so lost right now. There is no one I can turn to that can help the kids and me. My life has completely fallen apart and I am useless to fix it. I just wish I knew what to do. 

At Spirit Mountain Healing Center, a client can expect to get customized sessions that fit his/her unique and individual divorce situation that can help the client process the issues he/she feels are most important to them at the moment. The work that is done at Spirit Mountain Healing Center with the horses is always done in the moment, since this is how horses live their daily lives. A client can expect to work with the horses in different activities (mainly done on the ground) to help him/her work through the issues that arise from a divorce. The client can expect to experience a safe and confidential space to be able to work through the issues he/she is experiencing and to learn new life skills that will help the client move forward with his/her life after the divorce.

Relationship Issues

“I hate it when you shut me out. When will you ever actually talk and listen to me?” I have said this so many times to my husband when I have something that is important to me to discuss with him. It seems to me that if it is important to me and I am upset or anxious or some other emotion about the situation that I want to talk about, he just gets this blank look on his face and gives me either yes or no answers or nothing at all. It drives me crazy because I do not feel I am being heard when things matter to me. Our communication is poor at best and I don’t feel we have any connection to each other. What happened to our love and affection that we used to have for each other?  If something is bother him, he either gets very angry and yells at anyone or he just shuts down and says nothing. Neither of these ways of handling the situations work for me or for our relationship. I have a hard time trusting him because of the lack of communication. I am about ready to leave this relationship if things don’t change soon. I want to be heard and be able to communicate my needs and feelings without him getting upset or shutting down. I don’t know if this possible for us but I am trying to stay hopeful that there is something out there that can help me.

At Spirit Mountain Healing Center, a client can expect to get customized sessions that fit his/her unique and individual relationship situation that can help the client process the issues he/she feels are most important to them at the moment. The work that is done at Spirit Mountain Healing Center with the horses is always done in the moment, since this is how horses live their daily lives. A client can expect to work with the horses in different activities (mainly done on the ground) to help him/her work through the issues that come from relationships. The client can expect to experience a safe and confidential space to be able to work through the issues he/she is experiencing and to learn new life skills that will help the client move forward with his/her relationship.

Teen-Parent Conflicts

My teenage daughter is driving me crazy. She is procrastinating more and more about doing her homework and her household chores, which she knows she has to do. Lately, she just seems to roll her eyes at me and storm off to her room where I have to keep checking on her to be sure she is actually doing her homework. Many times I have caught her on her phone and not doing her homework. She tries to hide her phone from me, but I call her out on it and I get the nasty glare and the silent treatment. And don’t get me started on household chores. I feel I am a drill sergeant most of the times and I am tired of having to be on her case all the time. I would like to spend some quality time with my daughter but because of the issues between us lately, she doesn’t want to be near me let alone do something with me. I know part of this behavior is “normal” teenager behavior, but I am tired of always arguing with her and having this “canyon” between us. I would just like to find some ways to help bridge this gap and find a balance and peace between us. I am so lost as to how to fix the issues between myself and my daughter.

At Spirit Mountain Healing Center, a client can expect to get customized sessions that fit his/her unique and individual teen-parent relationship situation that can help the client(s) process the issues they feel are most important to them at the moment. The work that is done at Spirit Mountain Healing Center with the horses is always done in the moment, since this is how horses live their daily lives. The client(s) can expect to work with the horses in different activities (mainly done on the ground) to help him/her work through the issues that come from teen-parent relationships. The client(s) can expect to experience a safe and confidential space to be able to work through the issues they are experiencing and to learn new life skills that will help move the client(s) forward in their teen-parent relationship.